I wish I knew
In their early 20’s, girls only date older men because they are more mature and have enough financial stability to pay their bills and satisfy their urgent need for D5k. In their early 30’s when marriage comes knocking, they start looking for their mates because all the older men are married. By this time, some of those boys they used to treat with contempt as broke and “not serious” in their early 20’s have succeeded in life.
Nevertheless, those broke boys of yesterday also want to enjoy life with some of the young, beautiful, and fresh girls in their early 20’s before settling down. In their early 30’s, women attend the most weddings in their lives. Most of their responsible friends and relatives are increasingly getting married. By the time they experience all the love and mushiness in weddings, they come home and start scrolling through their contacts.
They start to remember some of the boys they rejected some years ago who seem like they’re okay now. They arrange hangouts, dates and implement different tactics to attract their interests. But most of the guys they’d unfortunately hit up are now play boys who just want to flex life; so they give you hope, smash you 1-3 times and then shatter your hopes.
As a young girl growing up, you tell yourself that marriage is not that important because you have a long way to go. You come on social media to talk about how you “love the women you are becoming.” You party with home girls, down it with alcohol, hang out with different men and live what you call ”the good life”. And then another wedding invitation for the weekend is laid on your hands.
You know, a point comes when you’d be the only single person in your squad. All your home girls are now married. And they’re too invested in their marriages that they don’t have as much time as before. They have husbands and kids to love and care for. You are no longer top priority. At this point, you are exhausted from going on dates, getting to know different guys, sharing your body and bed with different men who only want you for the coitus.
You then transfer the bitterness from all these disappointments to men on social media AKA join the “men are scum” or ”men are thrash” squads. Anyway, this is a cycle we are too familiar with. Some people get caught up in this loop as a consequence for playing the great game of life which never ends well. Always respect yourself as a woman and leave the rest to Allah. Never sacrifice your dignity, health, wealth or virginity for vanity or ”the good life”.